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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]friends of family members?

I do and it puts me in a very awkward position, especially because hosting for them is often much easier.

But my space is small, I work a lot and it is a big imposition. I don’t have a rehabbed basement I can send people to.

How do you handle? Obviously I know many snarky people will respond ‘just say no’ but [b]I like to keep family dynamics as positive as possible[/b]. So a little nuance would help. [/quote]

So that's your choice then. If you value "keeping things positive" with your family members who are being intrusive, then just suck it up and host people. If, on the other hand, hosting people is worse than dealing with entitled family members, you say no.

You seem to want the option that doesn't exist - you say no and everyone is fine with it. So, since you can't change other people, you decide which is more important to you. Host to keep people happy or say no to keep yourself happy. I know which options I'd pick in a heartbeat (wouldn't even have to post on DCUM for ideas), but clearly you need to think on it. So go ahead and ponder, but again, the choices are what YOU are going to do, their reactions will be what they'll be.

Also, just to point out, people who would be unpleasant to you if you said no are people who aren't going to be nicer to you for saying yes, and also people who will find something else to carp at you about. [/quote]

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