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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]By secretly resenting just the act of asking, too many people are actually on a power trip. They deny the asker a genuine answer while they get to make fun of them.

Say no if your preference is no. I try to be of the mindset that anyone can ask anything. I'm not faulting them for asking something, no matter what it is. And I will say yes or no. And it will be genuine, without drama. That neither of us will hold resentment going forward, or snicker to others about, "how dare they ask to ..."

If instead someone holds resentment re: the no, so be it.
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I disagree. I think there are usually understood etiquette boundaries around favors: you know you can ask a sibling a big one, a neighbor a small one or an emergency larger one (depending on the specific relationship), a stranger to watch your place in line at the supermarket.... It would not occur to me to ask some friend of a friend to host me for even a night. That's a big favor and that's weird. It IS rude to ask sometimes.[/quote]

I agree with this 10000%. The attitude that there is never harm in asking is a trope used by pushy people who just want what they want. It is insanely rude to ask someone else to host your friends and relatives!

In my experience the people who do this are trying to use your home in their barter system of favors with the person they are parking in your house. You host Sue’s friends and Sue gets to use their beach house! Brilliant move for Sue who gets a free week at the beach AND credit for hosting without any work! Screaming deal! Let those blessings fly![/quote]

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