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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Not OP: My problem is that no one discusses gift giving and then shows up with gifts. My sil has brought small gifts to Xmas Eve but if we don't discuss before I don't bring anything, so there I was with nothing last night while she and mil lined the living room with little bags.

I don't appreciate the "assumption" that gifts will be given.[/quote]

Respectfully, as a fellow Catholic, the fact that gifts are not discussed and then everyone brings gifts, means that the default and expected standard in your family is to give gifts, even without discussion

Yes, the work gifts were a surprise, that’s fair, but family gifts are expected of everyone in your family.

There are plenty of gifts that fall within Laudato Si, you have to make an effort to get them [/quote]

Forgot to mention three years ago I showed up with gifts and sil says to me "we aren't exchanging gifts this year". The inconsistency and lack of communication drives me crazy!!!! How hard is it to text or talk at Thanksgiving about what we are doing for gifts!?!? SIL is the one who likes to shop, not me. Given that we brought nothing for her stepson, we will send something in the mail but I will text her and tell her that going forward we can exchange gifts for the kids but no adult gift exchanging. Fact that SIL and MIL aren't my favorite people and I'm sick of DH's family dynamic doesn't help. And Pope Francis said, "Consumption is the sign of an empty heart." IMO no gift giving falls within Laudato Si.[/quote]

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