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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]His bachelor pad in the city sounds great, but I think you’re 100% wrong in not meeting each other’s kids. Keeping this relationship hidden and secret does nothing to help your kids other than erode their trust in you when they eventually find out. This is what my mother did and it nearly destroyed our relationship, I could not believe she got so serious with someone before I even knew he existed. Very similar fact pattern in that she had basically moved in with him and was only staying in our family home when she had the kids. It made my childhood seem like a lie, I felt like she was embarrassed about us, and like we didn’t even know her…seriously do not do that to your kids, it makes me ragey just to think about it.

Meanwhile, I met all of my dad’s girlfriends and it was fine. He and my step mom dated for 14 years and didn’t get married/move in together until all of the kids were out of college. But she spent lots of nights at our house when her kids were with their dad, and vice versa. [/quote]
I never understand folks like you talking about your childhood “feeling like a lie” bc they didn’t know everything going on between their parents or their parents’ romantic or sexual lives.

It’s so childish! You’re an adult now - surely you understand that your parents are entitled to some level of privacy, right? I don’t have girls and am not divorced but if I did and I were, I would not be bringing new men around my daughters. Even beyond that, though, parents don’t have to tell their kids who their romantic partners are until they feel ready (guess what, as an adult, you don’t have to tell your parents who you’re sleeping with either!). And to think that you would let it mar your relationship when you have said nothing about her being a poor parent. Just get over yourself already. [/quote]

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