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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My parents moved to a nearby CCRC 18 months ago, and, I am the nearby family member. Spouses parents passed over a decade ago. My parents were, and are, terrific parents who raised me, and however many years I can help them, is a privilege. And, maybe I will feel differently in a few years, but I hope not.

They are not the same as when they raised me (anxiety and memory loss are real and sucks), but I am not the same toddler, school girl, teen, young adult, etc. either

I wonder if the difference is that I had a terrific childhood, we have always had a good relationship, they have the funds to pay for the CCRC, that they aren't nasty, or that it hasn't been very long yet?  Whatever the reason, I consider myself lucky after reading all the horrid situations here, and hope the relationship we have with our now young adult children remains as strong as the one I have with my parents.[/quote]

I mean, the obvious difference is that they are in a CCRC, not at your house with you directly helping them get dressed. 
And I sincerely love that - good for them. It's so hard for people to make the choice and I'm glad they did and the whole thing probably contributes to your positive feelings about it.

But you are not the direct caretaker and that's the big difference. [/quote]

In PP’s defense it still involves visits and probably managing their care? It’s like teens, they don’t require direct caretaking but all the driving and managing is exhausting [/quote]

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