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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is what I don't get (two different posts from OP on the first page)

[quote] Our family member is getting married next year and not wanting to invite the entire family. Some people have received a save the date but most friends and family have not. [/quote]

I can understand being estranged, wanting to avoid a difficult family situation, having a small destination wedding, etc, and therefore not inviting everyone. I can also completely understand how it would be awkward if you actually received a STD and then family members who didn't are asking you details, and you don't know whether they are even invited!

[quote] We received a save the date.

There are many other people who did not receive one but they are probably getting an invitation.

This is a June wedding in Europe.

So these friends and family are asking US details. Ultimately, they may or may not be invited. Everyone knows this couple is engaged. [/quote]

This is the part that doesn't make sense. Why do you think they may get invited even if they didn't receive the STD? Seems to me, if you don't receive one, it's either because you're so close that the couple told you verbally and it is beyond question you are invited (which apparently is not the case here), or else you're not invited. I'm just not sure if this is a strange assumption OP is making that they may be invited, or if the couple is playing games with late invites and STDs, which is kind of obnoxious. [/quote]

I do think couple is playing games with late invites for some family members, especially the aunt and uncle and cousins.

I’m not sure about the family friends.[/quote]

All you have is assumptions. If no save the date, then assume not invited. Unless you are the parents or siblings where in normal families a formal save the date isn't really needed. The aunts, uncles and cousins need to just chill out or ask the bride and groom themselves.[/quote]

It seems like in this family, it's not assumed the parents are invited, lol.[/quote]

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