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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP what is your relationship with this couple? It sounds tangential as your DH is in the wedding party but you are not. How do you know the details of everyone who has and has not received a wedding invitation? How would you know whether the couples friends or work colleagues have been invited? How would you know anyone’s work colleagues or be able to distinguish whether they were just colleagues or friends? Why on earth would you care whether family members or tangential family friends are upset or not about not being invited to an event you are not hosting? Why would other people be asking you about it? Makes zero sense.

I just don’t understand your involvement, concern, or why you seem to have so much information on the guest list? [/quote]

I live near and hang out with several people who are verbally invited as well and family with mother, father, uncle and cousins since they are also our family members. Then there are also people who are not verbally invited.

We went to a destination wedding last year. My friend verbally told me and my friends the exact date and location, both city and venue. It was not a save the date. We whipped out our phones and added the date to our calendars. Then we received an invitation almost a year in advance. We were not part of the bridal party, just regular guests.

This couple emailed a save the date to very few people and that does not include family members including the father. 
Wedding is in June in a not easy to get to location that many people will need to fly to airport and drive several hours.[/quote]

You are avoiding the questions! What is your relationship to the couple? How do you know their work colleagues and their relationships? Why are you so involved?[/quote]

Because I’m trying to be anonymous!

We know work colleagues because we are both friends and work colleagues. Our family and friends are commingled, definitely mixed business with pleasure. Some people were family friends first and now professional colleagues and others we met professionally and now friends. Both bride and groom work in the same industries as DH and me so lots of overlap.[/quote]

Uggh this level of enmeshing sounds awful! Maybe they are trying to escape everyone being in their business. I’m guessing they really like your DH because you sound really bad.[/quote]

Why am I the villain?

It isn’t my fault the family hasn’t been given any details.

I actually think the bride is trying to escape HER family more than the groom is trying to escape his. [/quote]

You are th villain because none of this is any of your business. Just because someone asks you about you, it doesn’t mean that you have a license to dive right in. Stop being a drama seeking gossip hound! Gain some dignity, and focus on your own life. [/quote]

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