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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I am sorry for what you've been through and I wish your DD a quick recovery. On top of that, you have to listen to abuse online, because what you experienced in person was not enough. Some people here are just robots reciting the same "coach is right" poem. I feel like a few don't even understand the story and just join in because they recognize the chorus: "life is unfair." I want to see how many of them would be fine if that happened to their kid (and not just in theory). Player gets cut from the tryouts, while your own kid keeps going. If regular logic still 
stands, your kid is better than the kid that got cut. Your kid gets cut, then the player who had been cut earlier turns out on the team. Just how the unfair life intended.

This is THE opportunity to play the sport you love on the HS team. You have daily practice with the other top players who go to school. They've probably been in your social circles through clubs, tournaments, clinics, leagues. Of course you care who got a spot playing your position. You may be ok to see another player with similar skill level on the team. But then you look at the roster and see on your position that player who got cut before you. It doesn't matter whether we are talking about starters or bench players. Nice story to tell your child: get ready because life is going to hit you even harder. [/quote]

BS do not vilify anyone who posts that OP is a terrible parent.

OP came  to social media to diss on another persons child. She made her child obsess with being inferior to another kid who does this???

Life is unfair that is a life skill first which OP as a parent failed to teach her child.

And the whole blame the other kid garbage trashing the other kids skills what is OP a ten year old girl? OP is not a  volleyball coach either she has no idea what that coach was looking for. And yes sports are unfair that’s the natures of sports again OP making volleyball her daughters whole identity again bad parenting. As a mother of multiple division one athletes I understand parents like OP very well. All of my children knew sports were to enjoy not your identity. [/quote]

I have a different reading of what happened here. OP was looking for advice on how to deal with her child who was not responding well to having been cut from the JV team. She explained the situation reasonably well: how they typically deal with rejection and why this situation was different (a player who got cut earlier made her way on the team). She even mentioned that she didn't want the discussion to be about the other player. But the "coach is always right" crowd put the OP at the wall and started throwing the stones. Some of the people were really nasty and judgmental, even though they clearly didn't have a good understanding of the story or what the OP asked. I think the OP should have kept her original post to one paragraph because that seems to be the typical attention span on social media. [/quote]

No OP came on this thread and repeatedly complained that the other child was not as good as hers.

OP is not a coach. Everyone who tries out for sports must understand they might not make a team sure sometimes it is political and sometimes it is just skills or personality, either way it is a parents job to prepare their child. It is clear that OP did not do this. Her harping on the other kid is all over this thread.
OP made her child feel that volleyball is the only thing in the world. That is not good parenting.

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