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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I know a guy who makes about 400k who just proposed to his fiance who works an hourly retail job (but has a college degree). It just occurred to me that all the other couples I know make fairly even salaries with the man usually earning slightly more. I’m wondering why he didn’t go for a woman with a 6 figure job. [/quote]

Either he doesn't care or doesn't want to wait for a better option. I see many couples with unbalanced finances but mostly low earner is in a low paying professional job for nonprofits or other do-gooder jobs, not in hourly retail. [/quote]

Or he wants someone submissive and dependent who he can control. [/quote]
Are you that misogynistic and classist that you can’t perceive of a woman working retail who is intelligent? You don’t sound like the sharpest knife in the block yourself.[/quote]

A poor woman who works retail is easy prey for controlling men. Intelligent or not.  Its about the power imbalance. [/quote]

Not much of a power imbalance once you get married.  What's his is hers.[/quote]
Not if they have a prenup. The man who seeks control would make sure to sign a prenup.[/quote]

A controlling man intentionally married to a low-income or no-income woman will still have total financial control without a prenup.  And most things flow from there. [/quote]

Uh, no. Joint account; any income belongs to both of us.[/quote]

Then you don't have a controlling husband.  My own mom, for example, has never had access to any money (or credit) in her marriage other than the cash she gets in an envelope at the beginning of each month.  Watching this dynamic bothered me so much that I spent time helping people in her situation (but usually much worse) and learned that this is not uncommon.  Some wealthy, controlling men even target and marry poor immigrant women because they are the most vulnerable among us. [/quote]

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