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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Agree with others who said to decline her offer from the get go. Keep her on a perpetual information diet. Never share your vacation plans or dinner plans ahead of time. If she is the type (like my mother) to fish for information from the kids, don’t tell them vacation plans either. This way she can’t buy a ticket and impose on you at the last minute or play the “the kids told me you’re going to X” or “the kids invited me to join you on X” card. She knows exactly what she is doing. It’s manipulative. [/quote]

I agree with this, plus hosting her when you can because she's so lonely. But when I saw the headline I thought of my grandma who was not eating due to poor finances + poor executive function. So just in case, [b]find out what she eats when she's alone and make sure she is getting meals[/b]. [/quote]

You mean OP should hide in the bushes and look in her windows with binoculars? Because God forbid she actually interact with her.[/quote]

OP is doing plenty of interacting, they just spent 9 days together! She could ask, casually. She could check the fridge when MIL hosts, which seems to be often.

Food insecurity is probably not the issue here, I admit. But it's a thing to keep in mind when an older person keeps turning up at meals. Even if they have money, they get bad at eating regularly by themselves. [/quote]

Just to clear this up - my mil is wealthy and quite comfortable. Food insecurity definitely not an issue! [/quote]

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