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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Your instincts are totally normal; your [b]lizard brain[/b] thinks this is about survival. And obviously you didn't get married to be in a love triangle, and you need the love triangle kiboshed before you know if you want to stay in your marriage. That's all OK. But that said, try to wrap your brain around the fact that your life as you know it is over. You now have a complete picture of who your husband is and I can't imagine he's what you would choose for yourself today. The odds that he can become a person who deserves you again are not great (sadly, speaking from experience here).

My friend confronted her husband by printing off divorce papers. He instantly chucked the AP. I confronted mine, and he said he chucked her, but he kept her number and was sending her smoke signals on social media. We stayed together 10 years until he cheated again. I'm not sorry I stayed -- I was doing the best I could with what I knew at the time. If I'd left him then, I would have struggled financially and health-wise. Now I am set for life. My teenaged kids see clearly what a doofus he is.

There's a lot of internalized misogyny in the way women respond to this scenario. You're in the driver's seat and you need to do whatever is best for you right now. If it's not working, you'll pivot. You are strong and you will find your way. [/quote]

Lizard Brain 😆[/quote]

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