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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. Thanks for all the feedback. I saw a lot of sexist/misogynistic posts. To clarify, I'm the man in the relationship and SO is female.

Both of us understand that her income will be higher soon after she starts working and it makes sense to prioritize that. The assumptions I have made about stepping down at work, etc. are only if I have to.. i.e. No kids, nothing happens. If I can work remote or her job is at a location where my company operates, I transfer, etc. If we do have kids, I will absolutely step down to a very high WLB job to prioritize kids. We have seen how a few other families with two high-income/high-stress jobs operate and that's not for us.

My intention with the pre-nup was to be able to control my funds should things go wrong in the medium-term, not necessarily corral those funds as 'mine' forever.  Any income we make during our marriage would be shared 50/50 regardless of who makes it. 10-15 years down the road, I expect out marital assets to more than exceed my personal assets at which point I have no issues co-mingling everything. 
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Hi OP - I have two thoughts on your situation.
  
1) if you are thinking these thoughts about a pre-nup, you are not really in love with this woman and probably should not get married.  I bet you will get divorced.

2). Your plan to "step back" from your career and take care of the kids sounds pretty dumb.  Do you not have motivation to maximize your potential in life?

I'm not very impressed with the way you have described yourself and your future.

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Agree with both points.

Wrong mindset especially when not already a HNW or business owner.

Wrong and fixed mindset about how to run a dual income household. Nannies, preschool, housekeepers, grandparents, flexible tech jobs, WFH.

Your goal should be to get so valuable and senior in your industry you can call the shots more - location, wfh, shift hours, delegate more, etc.[/quote]

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