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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote][quote][quote]Anonymous wrote:
OP here. We have a 4yo and a [b]4 mo[/b]. Before #2 came along, #1 was mommy this mommy that, I want mommy. Pretty typical I guess. Naturally, mommy had the bulk of the child care activities. Since #2 came along, I've taken over the care of #1 (yes, it's wayyyy easier than a newborn, i know). #2 also seems to be consoled by mommy only so guess who gets all the carrying duties? Mommy of course. I get that she's tired. I don't really know what else to do.

At 4mos out from childbirth, I was just coming off a period of crying in my PJs with leaking breasts, wacky hormones, and roughed-up lady parts. Hell, my son didn't even latch and BF until he was 2 mos old, and he woke every hour or two all night long for months. [/quote]OP, you need a reality check. I'm sorry, but this is life with little kids. Not many couples are getting it on 5x a week during this time period.[/quote]
Actually, I would be happy with 1-2 times a week. Even I know 5 times a week is impossible (for us anyway)[/quote]

Jesus, OP, I was prepared to be somewhat sympathetic, but you've revealed yourself to be either utterly clueless or a true asshole.  At four months out, many women find sex very painful.  Can I repeat that - PAINFUL.  As in rips and episiomotomies and healing of scars.  Most couples I know, even the most HD, were not having any sex for the first 2 months, and then fairly limited sex until 4 or even 6 mos depending on DW's physical condition.  I can't believe your response to this "reality check" is to say you'd be OK with 2 times a week.  I realize you are no doubt reacting to perhaps a sexless spell before DC #2 came along, but, Jesus, listen to yourself...  Seriously, you are part of the problem here.[/quote]

She could do other things (even mechanized things) to keep him happy.  It shouldn't be such a chore and would show she is interested in his very basic needs, which really doesn't have to be all that complex or take all that much time.[/quote]

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