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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Not all cheaters walk away unscathed they suffer consequences.  Lost jobs, finances, homes, family relationships and social status.  Cheaters do pay the ultimate price and they walk through the rest of their lives knowing they made stupid selfish choices that hurt the people they love the most.  So yes cheaters do pay.[/quote]

This is my cheating ex - the same qualities that made him a cheater also caused him to have problems with other relationships - been fired from jobs 3-4 times, has a crappy relationship with his kids, failed at his second marriage, made poor financial choices, etc.  I don’t really think he’s ever been “sorry” about any of it - he’s certainly never apologized to me or his kids - but I do think he’s felt sorry for himself that his efforts to use other people to fill his needs didn’t work out.

I don’t feel to sorry for him. Actions have consequences, and there’s an endless supply of women to hook to soothe oneself if one isn’t too picky.  I do feel sorry for my kids. They deserved more from their dad.

When I first separated from their dad, I was (rightfully) angry and didn’t understand how friends and family weren’t also angry (although, I never really told anyone the truly terrible stuff that happened).  But, I’m sort of glad he didn’t get a societal punishment like being dropped or shunned. Those friends and family members continued to support him professionally and to invite him socially, both of which were helpful to the kids.

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