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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I suspect that men and women would receive this comment differently as a PP said. I, a woman, never did recover from xH’s years-long commentary on my PPD/ self-soothing weight gain. His approach was unvarnished bluntness, like he might’ve used (?) with a guy at work (you’ve gotten fat and you’re not as attractive as you were when we met 14 years ago)

Caveat - while a male might tolerate blunt negative statements better than a woman, and they might take action because men, doesn’t mean their feelings won’t be hurt. It’s really stupid to suggest that men don’t feel hurt. Especially OP’s guy who is obviously a sensitive dude.

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I really can't relate to this level of sensitivity. It's just weight, people! I've gained weight. My husband tells me. He loves me. He doesn't say it to hurt me. What he says doesn't make me feel bad in the least. Right now he's the one trying to lose weight, because he gained a bit this year, and he expects me to make comments as to whether his diet is working or not. Shouldn't a husband and wife have that kind of honesty with each other?

What IS it with women on DCUM and how they process weight and figure talk?!?!?! I don't get it.

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This doesn’t make sense. If you know you are overweight, why does your spouse need to say anything? Just lose the weight already and fix whatever issues caused it in the first place.[/quote]

This is not true at all.  At the end of the day, the amount of calories you take in and the type of claories (junk vs high quality proteins/carbs/fats) determine your size.  Lifting weights adds muscle tone and makes you look healthy.

This works for everyone.  Hormonal factors can complicate things but if you eat less and eat right - you still lose weight.

This is something the GLP-1 craze has kind of enforced - take away the cravings and allow people with problematic eating to make good choices and all of a sudeen the weight starts coming off.[/quote]

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