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Sounds like what he shared is valid 
Work on it - seek therapy.

Will say .. now that you’re a parent.. You’re  going to be faced with plenty of non perfect situations you absolutely can’t control.  Saddle up. [/quote]

I’m not a parent yet. I’m due next month. I really wanted a vaginal birth but I’m crushed now that we will have a scheduled c-section. I really wanted to avoid a c-section unless it was an emergency.

I know I’m hard to handle and like things the way I do. I think my issues stem from growing up in a dysfunction home with a very critical mom and stepdad who had no issues talking about people ( including me) if I was single for too long, gained weight, not making enough money, etc.[/quote]

Definitely seek therapy.  Your husband loves you and is telling you something you need to hear.  You have a lot of issues you need to unpack.  There is nothing that will uproot your orderly sense of control as a baby.  Get some tools in your kit for this from someone trained to help you.

As for the c-section, I get it.  Surgery isn’t fun.  A lot of women envision a “natural” birth and it can be disappointing when that plan doesn’t work out.  But as Im sure your husband has said, the goal is a healthy mom and a healthy baby and you are doing the best you can by listening to the medical professionals on this.  I had a “natural” delivery and it too wasn’t what I envisioned.  It was a traumatic back labor, the baby almost didn’t make it, the pain was beyond horrific, and there were lasting physical effects.  So sometimes even what you think you want doesn’t turned out as planned!  But you know what?  I have a thriving healthy son and that’s all that matters.[/quote]

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