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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]16 years married, just got into a huge shouting match. He ended it with "Let’s end it then!" I said, then go ahead! He is not one to just say things, even in the heat of the moment. [b]I’m so burned out from work I’m emotionally numb. My life is falling apart and I can’t even feel anything as it’s happening.[/b] Maybe this is for the best? I’m not happy the way things are. He doesn’t appreciate me and I will never be perfect, which is what he wants. Based on what he said during the fight, he feels I don’t prioritize him or appreciate him either. The children will be devastated. He’ll never be able to stop neglecting me emotionally. It’s always been that way. I have a feeling he is interested in another woman (divorced), and she’s likely interested in him. Well, I’ll not stand in his way. Go find your happiness and leave me to figure out my own situation. [/quote]

OP I’m not sure why no one else has picked up on this, but this sounds like textbook depression.  The numbness, the exhaustion, the desire to just give up, none of this is what you would say if you were in a healthy place, good marriage or not.

You need to see a counselor or therapist like yesterday and take meds if that’s what you need to get out of this funk.

Given this, I’m not sure about your narrative of events: is your husband interested in a local divorcee?  Why do you think this?  In the marriage over or is the fog in your mind making everything, including a pretty normal sounding rough patch, look grey?

I think you need professional help first and foremost, even before marriage counseling or seeing a divorce lawyer.  You owe it to yourself and your kids.  And maybe you are right about DH and maybe he is in an affair and maybe the marriage is over, but you need to stop drowning first.[/quote]

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