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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Our kids definitely had some rough times. 
I’m sorry it was like this for yours. The calls are really tough. I ended up visiting twice at those times.

I know you don’t need advice. Reading the parent FB page this year was pretty sad with a number of posts about miserable kids socially. It did make me wonder how many kids struggled socially in high school or were they super happy in high school and now experiencing what many people go through at some point. Some of the parents seemed like their kid had never struggled before.[/quote]

Totally anecdotal, but it seems to me that a very high percentage of the unhappy kids had big friend groups and a very active social life in high school. Particularly if a kid was in the same school pyramid their whole life, they may not have had to make new friends since kindergarten. If they don’t click with their roommate or don’t make the team or get into the sorority they want, there may not be an obvious or easy path to the busy social life that they’re used to. The introverts don’t have very high expectations and just find one or two friends and expand their friend group slowly. [/quote]

I would agree with this. My kid struggled her first semester, and we got plenty of those teary calls which were very very difficult for me as a parent. DD did have a really strong friend group in high school, so being away from them was a big change. DD had an idealized expectation of being besties with her roommate, but they didn't click at all. Roommate seemed to have zero interest in getting to know her. And then she didn't make the cut for an activity that she wanted.

Things seemed to click around Thanksgiving after she made some strong friends. Second semester went a lot better. Getting a therapist seemed to help. We also always picked up the phone and stayed on as long as she needed. College is a big transition, and it isn't smooth for all. [/quote]

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