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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Letting your kids go hungry will cure most picky eating. But most parents, including me, don’t do that, just like we don’t do physical punishment either.

The old ways must have been much easier for parents. And the way we parent now has real costs to making parenting exhausting and not an attractive prospect for the next generation. [/quote]

Letting your kids go hungry is still a tactic recommended by some nutritionists. And I can verify from experience that it does work across an extended family worth of kids with very, very different personalities. And no, kids without sensory issues who are NT won't starve this way, not even close.

But that's a HUGE caveat. If there's a medical issue or a difference in processing, sensing, or something like that you can't do this to your kids. Then it's cruel. I have a relative who is incredibly picky, but she has sensory issues. Making her go hungry until she would eat what the rest of the family was eating would have been awful, and would have backfired badly. She already struggles to maintain a healthy weight.[/quote]

The problem of course is that if you have a kid with sensory issues, everyone thinks you are just making excuses when you explain that they have sensory issues. It's very annoying to have a picky eater who you know is doing their best to eat what they can, and every well-meaning friend and relative wants to give you advice on it and don't understand that it's not normal pickiness.

I realized a couple years ago that when other people talk about "picky eaters" they mean kids who want pizza and french fries all the time, resist eating veggies, maybe don't like to eat a lot of things when they are prepared differently than they are at home. That's not a picky eater! That's just a normal kid. Your average kid will be situationally picky and resistant to certain foods. A picky eater is a kid who struggles to eat at all, even at home, even familiar foods. Who can lose their appetite or even develop a gag reflex when faced with a broad range of very typical foods.[/quote]

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