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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, have you put any effort to making her O. Do you even know how? Chances are it does not involve your d*ck which I think is a surprise to some men, and maybe even some women. I married very young (still happily married) and it took us a couple of years to realize what needed to happen for me to O. [/quote]

This is missing the very real possibility raised in this thread that she has no interest in trying to orgasm or sex in general. If, as others have suggested, she's asexual, she won't want to be bothered with the effort of figuring out what she needs in order to orgasm. No matter how willing and attentive OP is willing to be.  [/quote]

Well if so that really sucks for OP! And seems maybe[b] he should have clued into this in less than 20 years![/b][/quote]

Yeah, probably. 20 years is on the extreme side, but I can see how the years could get away from someone.

Maybe they're both shy about sex - even religious - so that they don't talk about it; maybe don't even do it until they're married. Poor communication habits are possibly combined with her faking a little bit. Or maybe the novelty had her enjoying sex to some degree even if she wasn't having orgasms. Then kids come along. Through the pregnancy, infant, and maybe toddler years, there are built-in excuses. She doesn't want to talk about it because sex just isn't that interesting to her, and she'd prefer to avoid the subject. He doesn't talk about it because he's trying to be a good husband - what kind of monster pressures his wife for sex when she's pregnant or dealing with the challenges of new motherhood?

By the time the second or third kid is school age, maybe you're 10-15 years into the relationship. The novelty is gone, the rationalizations are gone, and the sex is gone too. [/quote]

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