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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Helping in this situation wouldn’t be helping or just being a grandparent. It would be starting over as a primary parent all over again. [/quote]

I disagree. It would be way more hands on than becoming a grandparent when your adult child is older, but unless the baby's parents run off, you aren't the primary parent.

A lot of this would be about setting appropriate boundaries with your son and his partner about what is their responsibility and where you are willing to help. And sitting down to create goals for them so it's not like they are relying on you forever. You would need good communication and to be emotionally mature. But if you can do it, you will help your child grow into a great parent, by modeling the very skills they will need.

The upside would be getting to be a younger grandparent. I think now that a lot of people have kids later, there are many people who wish they could have more time and energy for grandchildren. So it's not all bad. I can imagine upsides to being a grandmother at 50 as opposed to 65.[/quote]

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