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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]In the first 6 months: Tell him “no.”  State your opinions firmly.  Don’t rescue him if he finds himself in a tough situation of his own creation.

The problem is that in the early stages of a relationship women are taught to not need anything and to give everything bc the goal used to be to catch a man.  Even a crappy man was better than being a spinster and women are still socialized with that mindset.

The reality is that the early stages of the relationship are the place where you need to push back, say no, be unhelpful.  Because a weak, selfish man will be utterly infuriated and will either show his weakness so you can dump him or he will weed himself out.  A man worth your time can hear no and be respectful about it.  He won’t automatically reject opinions offered by women.  If he messes up, he will understand that it’s his responsibility to solve it.

Don’t do anything for a new boyfriend that you wouldn’t do for a newish friend.  If Denise from marketing was sick would you go over and take her temperature hourly and make her soup and clean her apartment while you’re there?  No.  You would text her a get-well message, maybe drop off soup, and check in after a few days to see if she is on the mend.  Treat a boyfriend like that.  If he is likes you as a person it won’t drive him away; if he only likes you for your labor then good riddance![/quote]

I would advise both my son and daughter to dump someone who treated them like this. This should have self respect and expect respect in a relationship and treat others with respect. [/quote]

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