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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]1) every single one of you would try to help your kid if they did this. So lay off your high horses please.

2) I doubt she will get jail time but that’s what a good lawyer is for.

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"Help your kid" has different meanings to different people. Daddy bailing her out is not what I have in mind.

If my teen got a DUI I would "help" them by sending them to rehab and doing everything I could to make sure that they don't drive for the foreseeable future. I would expect them to suffer some consequences that hopefully will teach a lifelong lesson.[/quote]

My dad always told me if I got myself in jail, he wouldn’t bail me out. The kid in the article above didn’t even get the option. The judge gave him no bail. In jail since the morning of the accident. [/quote]

My dad said the same thing. His brother - my uncle - was killed in a hit and run and nothing ever happened to the driver. (This was decades ago. No idea if they were drunk since they didn’t turn themselves in for days.) My uncle left behind three little boys who missed out on having a dad their entire lives. Drunk driving is not a little thing and, with mass transit, Uber, Lyft and cabs, a totally unecessary thing. If you can afford an attorney, you could afford the Uber. Get your kid into rehab for real and take away the car keys. The life he saves may be his own. [/quote]

I was hit by a drunk driver on the beltway when a teen. He was driving the wrong way. I was incredibly fortunate to walk away and have no idea how I did. The driver behind me was not fortunate. I watched them trying to extricate him. I have from the time my kids were preschoolers openly discussed the dangers of drinking and driving. They know the risks. I have told them I won’t bail them out. But the reality is that kids are often immature and do stupid things and I don’t blame a parent for wanting a good lawyer. However, I would require my child to seek treatment (even if they claimed they didn’t have a drinking problem) and I would take away the car. I would never again allow my child to drive my car/insure them. I wouldn’t want to assume the risk of my child being a repeat offender. [/quote]

This 1000%

Majority of us have taught our kids not to drink and drive.  That it's dangerous and wrong.  We give them the ability to Uber/Lyft/Public transit.  Yes kids do stupid things, but the best thing you as a parent can do when that happens is let them deal with the realistic consequences.  So while I might step in to minimize the legal actions (for their future), I myself (along with their dad) would impose punishments equal to or greater than the legal ones.  They would be in therapy/rehab, they would have to pay for their own insurance, no more being on our insurance, but in reality, I wouldn't allow them to drive/have a car for at least a year (simple to do even if over 18---if you want us to pay for the lawyer, rehab, college, future financial assistance, you will follow our rules for dealing with this---if not, you are out of the house, on your own for everything ).  Let them suffer the consequences and realize just how difficult life can be if you cannot drive anywhere, if your auto insurance is now $6K/year, etc.  [/quote]

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