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[quote=Anonymous]There is a massive difference between “being with your kids 24/7” and “regular trips away without the kids”. We currently have 3 teens and have never had a family member capable of willing to take them overnight. The same is true for about half of our friends- so stop feeling sorry for yourself. That said:

-hire a babysitter or babysitters regularly! Treat them very well (overpay) so they want to babysit regularly and get to know your family very well. We had a standard weekly date night for years and years.

-when they were small, we left ours, here and there, for 1 or maybe 2 nights with said babysitter or babysitters. Usually to attend weddings (driving distance) or a little 1-2 night break (again, driving distance)

-as they get older and don’t need so much hands on care, it is feasible to “farm them out” to friends for a night or two (and return the favor)

-as they get older, overnight camps and such are possible. We didn’t do long sleepaway camps (but would be ideal for this)- however my kids often did shorter sleepaway camps (sports related) and we would try to coordinate those to overlap a bit  if possible.

-eventually you won’t need a babysitter and can “go out” whenever you like, within reason. It is great.

And we don’t leave our teens alone when we go out of town for a night or two. They either stay with their friends- at least to sleep (and we return the favor) or we use an older lady we found on a local site. She generally pet sits and/or house sits, for us, but is happy to earn the extra income to stay the night when the kids are here. Obviously they do not need hands on care…just an adult in the house to keep an eye on things and possibly drive them somewhere as needed (if kid is not of driving age yet).

You have plenty of options, especially going forward as the kids get a bit older. Stop with the self pity. [/quote]

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