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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Met at 22 and 36.  Married at 25 and 39.  Together 17 years/married 15 now with a teen/tween.  We've had our ups and downs, but nothing that specifically has anything to do with our age gap - usually stuff .. money, sex, in-laws.

Even having our lived experience, I definitely would have some strong feelings if our son brought home a co-ed in his mid-30s - mostly just because society is so weird about it.

And to the previous posters saying "wait 20 years" ... we're almost there and I'm not sure what the issue is.  He's in good health and is at a place in his career where he's basically on cruise control and can do some of the day-to-day heaving lifting with the kids (carpools, homework help), which has made my c-suite climb so. much. easier.

Good luck to your daughter - you sound like a great mom and your support means everything to her.[/quote]

I noticed women who are with much older men are typically not that interested in building a deeper connection. It’s more transactional: money, sex, and just not being bothered by anything external (in-laws, for the above poster). How they look together as a couple +kids on Instagram, very superficial. 
My exH would get irritated discussing my challenges at work; political issues; son’s issues at school. Not good with foreplay in bedroom. ExH built an office in the basement and was spending most of his days there, working. He now dates a 20 years younger woman with two little kids but don’t cohabitate with her, just takes on trips and restaurants. Now that he lives alone he seems to be the happiest. [/quote]

PP here- I'm confused how my post left you thinking that my husband and I don't share a deep connection?  I was commenting that my husband and I share the type of issues that many of my same-aged couple friends so -- never enough time, money, aging in laws, etc. which seem to be true no matter your age. My husband is my best friend - bad day? he's the first one I call.  Need help parenting teens? we figure it out together.  We laugh and cry and enjoy a robust emotional AND physical relationship.  I am SO glad I didn't listen to the naysayers (... many of whom are now divorced).  In my experience, my husband is more emotionally and physically attuned to our relationship and our children, and I attribute that to the fact that he "paid his dues" and no longer has to work insane hours and can be more focused at home.  I'm not perfect - neither is he.  But I don't think an age gap automatically dooms you to the types of relationships the PPs have been describing.  I'm curious to know where their expertise from these relationships come from, because it doesn't seem they have much experience with them.[/quote]

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