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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Your kid sounds like he has a lot of good things in his life.  Unfortunately, the suicides I've known about happened with kids that had many strengths and positive aspects to their lives.  So caution is warranted.

I would suggest that you screen and find some appropriate videos from suicide attempt survivors.  Videos that convey a message you want to share with him.  Ask him to watch them and discuss with you. Or watch them together.  I have watched some of these.  A lot say that they are grateful to be alive and that their suicide attempt was traceable to disordered thinking/lack of perspective.  Maybe that's helpful.  Kids like to learn from videos.

I am a bit leery of the counseling profession.  I believe that genuinely loving and thoughtful conversations with parents can help with breakthroughs in thinking.  So in addition to the professional help, maybe there are some additional resources you can bring to bear.

My kid (who has had issues, but is not suicidal) has benefitted from having online friends in Roblox.  They are real kids and they have been a source of emotional support when local friends have let my son down.  You might consider this within reason.  There are okay games out there.

Also consider whether your son is overtired or has SAD.  Maybe you could try a sunlight wakeup lamp as a mild intervention.[/quote]

Roblox???? Are you kidding? Just no. You have no idea who your child is interacting with. [/quote]

PP.  I am not kidding.  I am a thoughtful person, I check in with my kids regularly, I see what they have on screen, and I am positively quite surprised with the kids my children have met and befriended.  I hear their voices.  They are not grownups.  One is a high school student in Quebec...I've spoken to him in French.  Another is a very bright Chinese-American kid in NYC who is going to Bronx HS of Science now.  We know this kid's real name but not his address.  My kid got interested in studying Chinese because of this kid and now my kid is in high school Chinese 2.

Roblox is for younger kids, so it's tamer and relatively uncool.  I would not be ok with League of Legends, World of Warcraft, Fortnite.

The world is amazing and scary at the same time.  Internet is just a microcosm.  My kids have rarely run across anybody loosely resembling the adult "stranger danger" types that we read about.

So I'm surprised myself but haven't seen negatives yet.  Internet people (even anonymous ones) can be a valid support system and even progress to being real life friends.

Here's an example from a podcast.

https://www.google.com/search?q=onstar+safety+podcast+video+gamer&oq=onstar+safety+podcast+video+gamer&gs_lcrp=EgZjaHJvbWUyBggAEEUYOTIHCAEQIRiPAjIHCAIQIRiPAtIBCTEzOTUyajBqN6gCALACAQ&client=ms-android-verizon-us-rvc3&sourceid=chrome-mobile&ie=UTF-8

Good judgment is everything.  Totally rejecting gaming culture is like being anti-rock 'n' roll.

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