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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Different perspective, but I am a child of divorced parents. My parents divorced the year after I graduated from college; my brother was still in college. I would say the optimal time is either when kids are too young to remember or after they graduate college/are out of the house, IF you and your spouse are able to live together cordially. Even as a 20something, living on my own, I was surprised how much the divorce affected me. I would not do that to a middle/high schooler or even a college student if possible. In hindsight, not seeing my mom working through her own anger/grief/etc was a gift. That said, my brother did not fare as well as me - he witnessed bad behavior from my dad as a high schooler and it has impacted their relationship ever since. So basically, if you are able to act as adults until your kids are gone, that’s ideal, but if there is abuse, adultery, etc, the calculation is different. [/quote]

I agree that divorcing when kids leave for college or while they are there can be horrible.  It’s such a transitional time and they are looking for that stability at home while everything else is different/change.  It really had a bad effect on my freshmen college roommate when her parents announced they were divorcing that first year. [/quote]

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