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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP- how would you have had them plan? I'm sorry to push this at a sad time, but how do you say, at a cognitively clear moment, "mom, you're moving out next spring before you can't remember that you need to move out"?  And then you would have executed that plan?[/quote]

Planning includes decluttering, downsizing, maybe moving into a senior apartment, basically simplifying things and getting affairs in order so that adult children are not left with a huge mess to deal with when elderly parents become incapacitated or pass away.  If more parents did this while they are still young and with-it enough to do so, it would make a world of difference.  But unfortunately, people put it off, thinking they're going to live forever, and insist on staying in their homes until they die, even when they're no longer able to maintain their homes or live safely in them. [/quote]

We are in our sixties and seventies, my husband and I, and we did just this, basically Japanese death planning to spare our children of the task.  The exception is we moved into a first floor main living house with two guest rooms/suites not the upper level.  We still have the gardening/yard my DH loves to work in and room for our visiting family.  We consolidated every single thing to the point that our clothing is seasonally cleaned out when not worn, nothing in the storage area of the garage or attic other than yard tools and all of our paper work is updated on a yearly basis with our accountant/lawyer.  I never want to do to my children what both of our parents put us through in their later years.  [/quote]

Right. And applause for you. But there are those of us who are in our 60s, planning for our future AND cleaning up our parents mess.

Let’s show some empathy for the OP. [/quote]

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