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[quote=Anonymous]Crushes are a form of both intellectual and emotional masturbation. They're cheap, flimsy ways of indulging fantasies you're not willing to actively seek out for yourself and, depending on the severity of the crush, a form of self-sabotage and even self-injury. Rather than working on finding/building a relationship you don't have to psychologically escape from, crushes allow you to indulge in a delusional fantasy of how great having those things would be, while staying stuck where you're unhappy, doing nothing, sighing and wishing and wondering what-if. It's not just that you have a fantasy; most people do. It's that you've projected your fantasy expectations onto another living human without any willingness to obtain their consent or explore whether or not they're even interested in your headcanon.

For the overwhelming majority of people who aren't in solitary confinement or otherwise physically restrained from engaging other people, crushes are a weak-willed waste of time that would be better spent analyzing your fantasies and then working on making what's viable a reality. [/quote]

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