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[quote=Anonymous]Men do have a hard time understaning these emotions and the response expected of us. Our kind internalize the stress and maybe vent frustration, but don't understand the crying/hug thing probably because we can't rationalize how that is beneficial/effective to the sitatuation. You don't see stressed men crying and hugging each other to deal with it. We complain, comisserate, and move on.

It reminds me of something my wife and I figured out. Took us a long time. Things I do or don't do may make her feel "hurt". I don't understand that emotion. I may get annoyed or frustrated or angry, but not "hurt". When we figured it out, I said to her I could honestly not name a time where something she did or said made me feel "hurt". Annoyed or angry, yes. But a little thng... forgetting to say thanks for something or taking my coffee and sitting and reading in a diffrent room and bam, she feels "hurt" when I am oblivious to stuff like that. I don't even realize I hit the "hurt" tripwire or why. The worst is  when she then makes up some intent out of thin air..."you're having your coffee without me because you don't want to spend time with me." And I'm like, "No seriously my book was in the living room and I just sat here to read because it's more comfortable."[/quote]

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