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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, you sound emotionally manipulative. The most simply answer as to why your husband will not hug you when you are crying of issues like "back to school stress" is that he simply refuses to reward your bad behavior.

The argument that that "men's only emotion is anger so he should go to therapy" is misandrist.

Lets take your example of "back to school stress" where you start the morning by crying. What is it that you want from him? Are you actually wanting a hug or are you wanting him to take care of some action items.

If what you want is literally a hug, CRYING FOR A HUG IS CHILDISH AND MANIPULATIVE. As an adult you should have self-awareness to think "humm... I"m stressed, I'd like a hug from my husband" than an ADULT will walk over to their husband and using their big girl words say: "honey, I'm feeling a lot of stress and a hug would make be feel less stressed. Will you please give me a hug?"

If you did that then I bet he would give you a hug. If he didn't give you hug, then he is being a jerk.

That isn't what you do. You cry (like a child) and hope his response is the magic response you want and if he doesn't give you the secret code you get to be more upset with him. YOU are manipulative.[/quote]

What the actual hell. This is old and I still felt the need to comment. OP also literally had said that he still had anger when she was dealing with MOURNING. If he still shows anger in ALL crying situations, I don't think it's that she's being manipulative. She also said she rarely rarely expresses emotions to him now.

That's going to add up and there will be times "small things" cause crying. I didn't see where she expressed she didn't specifically ask for a hug. Maybe she didn't specifically ask. That could be clearer. But that is still in NO way manipulation. She's simply wanting human affection.

Crying is *gasp* a result of a lot of built up emotions over time. When we cry around those that love us, we're not crying to get attention and pity from them, but a typical response to seeing a loved one in distress is to comfort them. [/quote]

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