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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Where is your husband? Dad needs to lay down the law. [/quote]

OP. He has a crazy schedule and is either not home in the morning, in the evening, or both.

He also gives in. That’s honestly a big part of the problem. She’s horribly behaved around him because she knows he’ll give in. Even the nanny has noticed DD behaves differently if it’s just me vs if H is home.

I can’t really count on him to hold boundaries. From the beginning I told him we needed to sleep train her and he refused, so now she’ll only sleep if daddy holds her and sits in a specific chair. When she wakes up in her own bed she gets upset. I’ve tried discussing sleep training with him and he won’t.[/quote]

Hi OP, I posted before about PCIT and Dan Shapiro. I would RUN to one of those, particularly PCIT with your husband. Your husband doing it with you is crucial. I know that might seem impossible but pull out the "big guns" (pardon that kind of terrible saying), make it a non-negationable. You all have a tough kid and it is tough to parent a high needs kid and you HAVE to learn some tools together. It will only get harder the bigger and stronger she gets. It's impossible of course of this forum to tell if there is something underlying or if it is behavioral based on a variety of factors. It could easily be either. But at this point it actually doesn't matter as much as getting some good parent coaching TOGETHER. Because from ages 0-4 and even much past that, the best intervention is working with the parents. not becuase you're necessarily doing something wrong (though I agree with you on the sleep training!) but because you absolutely need more tools and support to be consistent and parent the child you have. [/quote]

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