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[quote=Anonymous]Just want to echo that #1 and #2 do keep schools on point so you can be consciously be the sane and rational parent who can schedule an appt and then have a good, focused, and respectful conversation with Admin and brainstorm ideas that help your kid. If you volunteer occasionally and contribute to the Annual Fund consistently (It does not have to be a huge amount) and judiciously contact the school, you are in the sweet spot at private schools IMO.

Both private and public schools in the DMV have this dynamic, with plenty of parents who fall into both categories; it is only a matter of degree. Our friends in Montgomery and Loudon counties have confirmed that and our experience in an affluent DC school district in the younger years did as well. It's definitely amped up in private school but as the years ho by, the parents often self-select.

Now that our child is older and notices the differences in values and outlook among the student body, we use it as a point to emphasize what we value without denigrating others. In the end, the kids end up finding their people so it is fine.

When it comes time for colleges, we know where some of the legacies lie and we also know the colleges and universities where students from our school often attend. We will  just chat with the counselors and say, "Here's our list. Help us rank where you think our DD may have better chances of success because of how crazy the admissions process can be based on any number of factors, including legacies, only admitting so many kids from this region etc."

We chose to send our child to an independent school so that she learns and both enjoys and respects the educational process. If she does not get into a specific Ivy or SLAC because 2 kids in her class with  lower grades have uber wealthy parents and/or are alums, so be it. That is life, and the world is not fair. DD received a good education and made some good friends along the way. Congratulations! She will still attend a good university. Just my 2 cents. YMMV. [/quote]

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