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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The bigger concern is if your kid is actually not legitimately a D1-caliber athlete.

That places tons of stress on the kid thinking they aren't good enough.

Hopefully, there is good reason to believe that your kid is D1 material...either because they play on a top-tier club team that sends lots of kids D1 or a coach you know to be knowledgeable and honest has told you so.[/quote]

That isn’t really a “big concern”.

Every athlete knows something can happen to make the D1 offer not happen.

It’s also why companies like to hire athletes, they handle stress well, disappointment, getting over hard times like injury, etc.[/quote]

I don't know what you are talking about.  There are tons of parents of athletes who have zero chance at a D1 offer...yet they talk as though somehow, some way it can happen because they read about some random kid (with zero insight or knowledge on that kid) that in some slight way resembles their kid and they received a D1 offer.  I don't try to spend much time with those families because it's sad and you can see the disfunction.

That's a far cry from something can happen (i.e., an injury?) to make the D1 offer not happen...like a kid we know that was on the cusp of a Power 4 baseball offer but now needs Tommy John surgery.

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Every non athletic family thinks all the athletic stuff is “dysfunction”.

Of course the kid knows they might not get recruited.[/quote]

My kid is a recruited athlete who will be playing in college.  He plays on a national travel team with one kid who will likely be a 1st or 2nd round MLB pick.

I speak from experience, which seems like more than can be said for you.  The delusion for parents and kids is very real and unhealthy.

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Yes, some parents are delusional.  Other parents are confident.  Still others are cautiously optimistic.  Who cares?

Should parents discourage their smart kids from studying unless they are 100% guaranteed to get into an Ivy?[/quote]

Yes, parents should discourage their kid from fixating on an Ivy-league school if they have a B average...which is different from saying they should stop studying and give up on attending college in general.

Yes, parents should tell their kid that throws low-80s that in fact they should not be fixated on a D1 offer that will never happen.  Either decide you want to attend a D1 school and play club or adjust your college expectations.  That doesn't mean you quit baseball.[/quote]

I am not going to name the school lol but it's Top 8. I played in div 1 and at least 3 of my teammates were low Bs kids in high school.[/quote]

They were referring to a non-athlete getting a B.[/quote]

Ah didn't see that part. Sorry. If you are a star athlete , depending on the sports all you need is a B and if you are truly a star any college ranked academically from 1 to x will take you. Again it depends on the sports and your talent. Usually these star athletes are truly special. I don't think people realize how gifted some people are whether it's sports, academics etc. [/quote]

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