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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yet another DH with mental health issues
 Every day we have such a post[/quote]

I gues in SICKNESS and in health isn't a vow people keep anymore.[/quote]

"Sickness" doesn't mean "I know I have this, and I do nothing about it." I can only take care of you to the extent you take care of yourself. If your liver is cirrhotic, but you insist on drinking to excess, I can't magically love you through that. The kindest thing I can do is let you make your own decisions while running damage control for myself and the rest of our family, because that "sickness and health" thing goes both ways. I'm not obligated to make myself sick taking care of you while you make yourself sick.

If you're sick in the head, it works the same way. You need to be working on your mental health, analyzing your behavior, committed to regular therapy, support groups, 12-step programs, peer counseling, etc. It's not my job to simply accept that you're "sick" and not doing a damned thing to protect and respect your own health, nor is it my obligation to ruin my mental health doing more for you/us than you're willing to do.[/quote]

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