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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Some people are introverts and your MIL is one of them. She is not an extrovert so she isn’t going to change overnight and [b]be line dancing with the rest[/b]. Sorry. It’s not what you want to hear. You and your husband need to adjust and find activities where she can enjoy and spend time with you all. I have an elderly parent who is like this. We do simple things like lunch and go grocery shopping. And is perfectly happy afterwards! You just need to adjust your thinking.

And yes, you posted here. You ask for all of it. [/quote]

I don't think that's what OP is looking for, though. She wants her MIL to find activities that she *can* do -- book group, movies, adaptive exercise class, something -- that she could do that would get her out of the house.

A lot of the activities at the 55+ communities I know about are geared toward younger, more active people. But this is where OP's MIL chooses to be, so she would be better off if she did what she can from among her community's options. There's no way to force that. Does she think she'd be more interested in activities at another place, or is it just discontent with the process of aging? And are there supports for residents, as there are at CCRCs? A CCRC would have social workers who might be able to nudge your MIL towards therapy & meds; I don't know if OP's MIL's 55+ place has the same, or if she sees another doctor who might be able to help.

OP doesn't have to go on every visit (this would probably be fine with her MIL), but her husband should be seeing his mom at least once a week. Not necessarily for a full day, but for errands and lunch or a movie or just to hand while assembling a jigsaw puzzle. [/quote]

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