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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Psychiatrist here. My guess is that it’s her.  Whenever you are around someone and they make you feel something you don’t normally feel, it’s almost always coming from them.  Anxious people make you feel anxious.  Expansive manic people make you feel happy and great, etc.  I did have to do a lot of my own work in therapy to figure out what’s coming from me and what’s from my patients, but my guess is that this is coming from her.  She feels insecure and you are picking up on it.

On a side note, I’m jealous that you have so many friends.  As a working mom, I feel like I hardly have any friends.  The fact that you have gone on multiple girls trips with her, and she isn’t even one of your closest friends has me incredibly jealous!  [/quote]

MD here. This is a smart psychiatrist. Well done, fellow doc!

OP, I would also add that it's important to remember how high functioning you are, and how you appear to the rest of the world. I mean, read your OP. You're a subspec surgeon, great family, successful, you may not be gorgeous like your friend, but I bet you look great. Now ask yourself how many people around you may have the reaction to you that you have to your friend. Also ask yourself, honestly, how many women intimidate you. Not many, right? As a fellow subspec physician and mom, I'm really proud of where I am in life. Very few women make me look at my own life and think I did it wrong. So, you get used to feeling a bit of superiority (I don't mean that in a mean way), and it's unsettling and unfamiliar to feel less-than. Cheesy as it sounds, consider it an opportunity to up your game, whether it's in fashion, fitness, problem-solving, etc. And maybe at this point that feels exhausting and you don't want that, but I bet very few women in your orbit cause you to reach a bit. It's not a bad thing.

Either way you sound self-aware and kind. Be proud of yourself. :)[/quote]

NP here to thank both of the above women for this! Such valuable perspective. I’m not a surgeon but am accomplished in other ways and often lose sight of how I’m sometimes perceived. Good friends are golden. Have a good weekend, working women of DC! :)[/quote]

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