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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DEI director here. If the school says the event is open to all, believe them. If it was for a specific community within the school, they would say so. [/quote]

I fully support DEI but the equity part I think can be unrealistic at times and maybe not fair as once we all start comparing our advantages and disadvantages it can get messy.

For example, school needs parents to pay and host an event for all parents in a grade. One parent wants to be listed as a host on the invitation but they express they can not pay what the others are paying. Thoughts on this? I think it is unfair and all should pay equally or just not be listed as a host. Thoughts?[/quote]

Not the PP - but from what I've seen at our (3) schools - the school doesn't structure events where a "subset of parents" pay to host a school sanctioned event and then put their names on the invitation.

Examples: Families offer to use their home to host an event but the school pays for it. Families offer to host a pot-luck event  - where all participating families bring food. Or, the school hosts the event at school.  In cases where there are student events (trips) that parents are paying a fee, the school provides support for students receiving aid. [/quote]

Well your school is different. At our schools it is common for parents to host the entire grade of parents and pay for the party. Very common. It is a nice gesture. School could never afford that and potlucks are crappy food and a mess for the hosts to deal with in my experience. [/quote]

Of course all schools are different and there was no judgement in my examples - it was purely an explanation of how our schools have thought though DEI and choose how to handle financial disparity. (which - obviously is still apparent when you go to the hosts' home - even if the school is footing the bill).  And yes, the host obviously is still being generous and has to deal with the mess and  ready the house for hosting (whether they pay or the school pays and whether there is a pot luck or not).

We only went to one pot luck (a long honored and beloved tradition at that school pre-COVID) - everything was delicious. They keep it to a small number of families and appropriately manage what people bring so that all parts of the meal are represented. They often spoke of returning to these pot lucks after COVID - but didn't before we moved on.
 
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You may think you have good intentions but this is where intentions meet reality and this kind of attitude of demanding equity where it’s not necessary is going to kill these events. There are other ways you can help your school. Hosting events in your home may not be one of them and that’s perfectly ok. We don’t need everybody to do everything.[/quote]

DP. Perfectly said. They will end up ruining these events for all. I say "all" because the events will still happen but what happens is they won't invite all anymore. They will make it a private non school event instead where they can do what they wanted originally without any oversight. Trust me seen it happen. [/quote]

I’m pretty sure the PP complaining about this has no idea what some of us are talking about and has zero experiences with these events. Most people have no problem coming to an event at someone else’s home and enjoying the free food and drink and mingling with the other parents. I don’t think they are secretly begrudging the unfairness and the financial disparity. And the hosts aren’t really trying to show off and impress, more often than not there was some arm twisting getting people to step up and put in the time and effort when they probably otherwise would have hung back waiting for someone else to “volunteer” or maybe that’s just me, ha.[/quote]

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