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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]For a kid who is college material but didn't want to go:

I would continue to provide room and board as long as she was a good "roommate"-- cleaning up after herself, helpful, etc.

I would encourage but not require community college classes.

I would require a job, either PT with community college or FT without.

I would

I would not treat a decision not to go immediately to college as something that requires "tough love" or punishment. The idea that a kid gets kicked out of the house at high school graduation because they don't want to go away to college? Ridiculous. And also bullsh*t. Some of you love to pretend you're so tough.

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I feel this way too but I think it depends on the kid. I have a strong sense that OP’s daughter has some kind of unresolved dependency or immaturity or anxiety. Accomodating her by letting her hide at home sounds like it could really snowball. OP sounds kind of useless so I doubt she would actually require her DD to get or keep a job. This is literally failure-to-launch in action. If it was a somewhat proactive and sensible kid who just did not want to go to college - sure, let them benefit from saving on rent. But doesn’t sound like the case here. It’s just not developmentally normal to want to stay home after HS graduation. [/quote]

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