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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My DH got home at 7:30pm a lot when my kids were little. It wasn't because he was wasting time or being selfish or deceitful, it was because he worked until 6 and sometimes his boss wanted something or wanted to talk until 6:30 and traffic put him between 40-65 minutes for the commute.

We need more details about how commute and demands.

I mean, if his hours are flexible and the office clears at 4:59pm and he lives 3 miles from work, yeah, this is not a good situation.

But if his work culture is that people stick around until 6:30 or 7 sometimes and he works in Arlington and you live in Gainesville, that's more than within reason.

Salary probably doesn't impact those factors. So if it's the former you need to have a hard talk...like once he drops the kids off he should be heading into work, not back home (I do this). Or if it's the later, he might want to look for a new job with better hours or closer to home or remote. [/quote]

Op here. He has a 10-15 min commute. It’s not his boss or coworkers staying late. He likes his job and finds it interesting. I think he just loses track of time. I sort of get it. I know at my job I’m most productive starting at 2pm and it’s painful to drag myself away to go get all the kids.

He’s a fed so his job is more flexible than most. A lot of his coworkers work 7-3:30.

I tried the nanny route all summer long and it was hard. Nanny was 25 but just wasn’t helpful. She seemed responsible but didn’t know how to cook absolutely anything, didn’t know how to work a dishwasher and had trouble maintaining discipline (and my kids are pretty well behaved). Managing her was a big headache and I’m not eager to try again. I don’t really want someone to just watch the kids while I cook, I’d like someone to help cook, talk to me about their day and wrangle kids with me.

My job doesn’t have part time options but I think that would solve a lot of problems. [/quote]

Fool’s errand to hold out on help for a cook. There’s a lot of options from hello fresh to slow cooker meals to even locally operated stock-the-fridge meal companies that you can choose for the food component. It’s childcare assistance you need OP. In no time, you’re going to want to be splitting up the kids and taking the oldest to her first soccer practice or after school art class. With three those ages, spending every evening at home is unrealistic. Either husband helps or you need a sitter.[/quote]

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