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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Wow, alot has happened since I last posted. I figured some of you might need some resolution since you all seemed so stressed.I have in fact never been stressed this entire time. I was just asking a question.

But to summarize, Yes, principal confirmed she yelled at my daughter. And slammed her table. She did so, she said, because when the teacher arrived with her, holding her by the hand, my daughter 'was looking around acting like she wasnt bothered by being brought to me".

She confirmed that  she said to my daughter that she had heard she did not want to participate in a reading segment, and the principal said that by the end of her telling her that "she wouldnt have that" my daughter was crying. She further went on to state that after my daughter "realized this was the big time" (as indicated by her crying) and was made to sit and eat her lunch alone in the hallway that "she was in a better place".

My daughter was in fact teased socially about a boy who decided randomly to display affection for her at lunch, which she was embarassed by, and the other kids teased her about as confirmed by her teacher. What teacher didnt know is that one of those students in class has been (because of that incident) muttering under her breath at her that she is embarassing and refusing to sit next to her at reading time.

This is what led to my daughter not wanting to participate in the instance that was then dealt with as it was dealt with.

Not that most of you appear to care about facts or details, but that is where all the important issues reside in life in general. The full details, not just parts.

Thank goodness for me and my daughter, I am a parent who holds her accountable for her actions and  also considers the greater context of the situation, This is what adults must do in adult life. Simply judging off the bat without gathering facts is risky business.

Again, all I wanted to know is why a timeout is not standard use instead of principals office for a disruption of this kind (sitting it out) as opposed to yelling or that kind of thing which would of course be impossible to deal with any other way but removal. My daughter would never get away with disruption of any kind under my watch and she knows it. Why? Because I have a real clear system of consequences that is consistent. So, does it make sense a good kid goes bad for no reason

Not having a consistent set of consequences for a kid who fails to participate, which, by the principals admission is commonplace, is problematic. Also, failing to take the few minutes required to actually ask a kid why they dont want to participate is failing to gain  information that could be useful in determining an appropriate course of action.

But again, Im talking to the wrong crowd. The montessori director I met with today didnt have any problem understanding what was happening, and thought the response by the principal and teacher was inappropriate, as did my educator friends. So, to each his own I suppose. I take more the middle ground which is: my daughter should not disrupt, but one has to note why she is disrupting and how. That is every parents responsibility. But first they have to be told its happening.

Have a nice day. And calm the heck down everyone! Drink a glass of wine and stop judging and assuming everyone else shares your stress. I feel great now that I know the parameters I am dealing with. Your judgements honestly dont affect the bottom line at all, but I do appreciate you sharing them with me, really, I have learned a lot.

OK who will have the last word here- its your competition! ;)

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aww, OP, you said you werne't checking back and you did!  I'm confused by your inappropriate expectations... I think I'm going to sit here on the floor and refuse to move.[/quote]

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