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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here. Wish. I really mid-spoke when I said force-feeding; I did not mean that he put food in her mouth (nor did my mother mean that). She meants that her forced her to finish her 4 nuggets before getting up from the table even though she said she was full. Right before I left, I saw him holding a ketchup-dipped nugget in front of her while he was seated right beside her (so couldnt see her face) and say "take a bite now."
I was in a bad mood and snarled (in front of my mother) "her mouth is full, in case you didn't notice"

I think I have portrayed things as worse than they actually are. Also, this is all quite acute. A family friend's child was injured badly recently at their home and my DH blames the parent who was present, who has a similar style of parenting to me. I think he is reactIng to that. He is not usually like this.

He does have anger issues. We completed a year of couples therapy some time back. He doesn't wish to continue.

Thank you very much the posters who empathized and were honest. To read dcum, I would think I was the only mother who ever lost her cool, so it's nice to read that there are other human parents out there and that they are working on their issues.

To whit, I have tried beginning a discussion on discipline and parenting.[/quote]

Op, we obviously do not know exactly what your situation looks like, we only know what you tell us. I am going off just what you say and forming an opinion based on what I know from past experiences and such. So with that, it honestly seems like you are back tracking, defending your husband, and rationalizing the situation.

In your original post you said "and put each subsequent bite in DD's mouth, even while her mouth was full." I read this as your daughter's mouth was full but your husband continued putting the food into her mouth. I don't see how it could be understood any other way?

I am one of the pps that didn't just say "get out of there" because I've been in abusive relationships before and I know it's not as easy as "ok, I'm leaving". I actually believe in rehabilitation. But abuse, anger issues, etc don't just stop randomly. They need to be addressed and taken care of. [/quote]

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