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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP said
[i]All of our issues are follow through, action-oriented implementation issues which then result in feelings because something went wrong and someone gets stressed and then communication breaks down. [/i]

You know that mistakes are going to happen in life. And people are going to drop the ball sometimes. If your emotional state hangs on everything going according to plan, you're setting up for volatility. It's better to become more familiar with your feelings as they are regularly.[/quote]

OP here. My thoughts exactly.  But the problem is that whenever anyone drops the ball, instead of just seeing it as a ball to pick up it becomes a character disagreement. That is what is annoying and while there could be some autistic traits, the more prevalent issue in the family is adhd. Mostly hyperactive adhd. So people are impulsive and reactive snd dont think their words qnd axrions through while also wanting to be as good as Michael Phelps type mentality in their area of focus
 But they don't have the discipline.  So it's really a cognitive issue to keeping things together and less emotionality around each ball dropped or trying not to drop balls. This is why it's confusing with the therapist because the issues are small and yet they are getting larger than necessary emotional reactions if anyone calls them even just calmly on a ball that is dropped. But instead of the therapist helping the family have a lessee reactive behavior to small issues she's saying that we don't focus enough on feelings and I'm thinking all I asked was for him to clean his plate and put it in the dishwasher.  Or if there is a safety issue I'm wondering why people are focused on feelings and not ensuring themselves and others that they are safe. [/quote]

Everyone is over scheduled and burnt out, that is why they meltdown over dirty plates.  As a parent your job is to prioritize family health and harmony not cater to future olympians or Ivy leaguers.  Drop activities and electronics.  Focus on chores and family dinners and downtime.

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