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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think it's understandable that he wants to expand his sexual experiences if he has had 1 partner for majority of his life. Why don't you go with the status quo for now. Maybe he'll be ready for monogamy once he's had some time. Also, if someone is smitten in love, they naturally would not pursue others.

Good sex is one of the greatest pleasures in life. I didn't realize this until I had lovers who valued sex and the experiential aspects of it. I learned things about myself that I never would have if I didn't explore. I think it's good and healthy to explore. Just practice safe sex.
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I agree it's understandable that he wants this. But it's also understandable that OP does not. She has had plenty of sexual partners and experiences. She doesn't need non-monogamy and would only be doing this in order to keep this guy in her life. I think that's a bad reason to do something you are reticent to do and that carries some risk to your health as well.

There's just no compelling reason for OP to do this. She isn't really interested in seeing other men while she's dating this guy. She's uncomfortable with him seeing other women. He also appears to be uncomfortable with her seeing other men which is a red flag and a wtf.

OP should just tell him thanks but no thanks and if you ever decide you'd be interested in something monogamous let me know. There's no real advantage to staying in the relationship since it's not the relationship she wants anyway.[/quote]

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