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[quote=Anonymous]There are different kinds of 3 or more kids people who fall into this high achieving category

There are the "early and often" people who start in their 20s and knock them out early because why were fortunate to find someone to marry fairly early in life and figure why not get the hard early years out of the way when they are young and energetic (and often their parents are young and energetic and can help). Also helps if one fof them is already making enough money so that doing this in your 20s and early 30s doesn't mean sacrificing on travel or having all the nice baby stuff.

There are the careerists who wait until mid--30s to start and then have 3 quick before they turn 42 or so. These people wanted to be established in their careers before they had kids at all. They definitely have the money for all the help (probably less parental help usually but sometimes you've got some energizer bunny grandma running around). A lot of physicians take this route because they don't want to have babies during med school or residency or fellowships (whereas lawyers actually can have kids during law school or early in their career and with the right help it can work).

Then you have the "oops baby" people and the "maybe just one more" people -- these are folks who don't mean to have more than two but decide things are going great and they can handle another (either before getting pregnant or after). Anecdotally this sometimes works great and sometimes is people pressing their luck and things spiral downhill fast (turns out one kid has an SN or that third pregnancy is horrible in ways the first two were not or suddenly everyone's parents have health issues right after the third is born). And the press your luck folks get very humble very fast usually

- Late 40s high achiever mom with one kid born in my late 30s (and happy about it) but lots of friends with 3 or more kids.[/quote]

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