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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If you can't manage two kids with biweekly cleaners, SAH is not for you. If its so hard, why would you even want to? Don't try to force a square peg into a round hole. [/quote]

Not op but I mean “can” and “want to” are different, right? I’m perfectly capable of managing two kids and a house with no help, but I don’t want to live my life without ever getting solo time to do my own adult things. If I don’t get to exercise, go on dates with my DH, go to doctor’s appointments etc when I need them and have some solo time for hobbies and relaxation, I’m not happy with how I’ve set up my life. If you’re a SAHM, doing those things means paying for some childcare (or having free care from family, or a spouse who will take over for you sometimes). [/quote]

OP said she's "drowning." Sounds like "can't" to me. It doesn't seem like a good fit for her. Its not for everyone and I don't understand why so many who clearly dislike being a SAHM insist on remaining a SAHM. I think they just want to "not work" which is not the same thing.

Oh, and an occasional date night sitter and a part-time nanny are very different, but you knew that. [/quote]

It may also depend on what kind of parent mode she is in. I don’t mean good or bad parent, but I was the kind of parent who spent all my time and energy interacting with my kid, or thinking about my kid, shopping or cooking for my kid, and doing research on my phone on my “down time.” It was borne of anxiety in part, and it is exhausting. [/quote]

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