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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You sound like you do not have children. If so, there is a decent chance that in forty years, your nephew might be one of the few left who feels obligated to you and is still young enough to have energy to help. Given that, make the trip.[/quote]

This advice relies on a false equivalence, and assumes the nephew lacks a basic sense of proportion. Attending a graduation and attending to the "one of the few left who feels obligated" situation described are entirely different. A decent Aunt would provide "one of the few left who feels obligated" support for a nephew, regardless of whether the nephew attended her graduation.

The thinking process described lacks proportion: "Aunt OP is in a nursing home alone and needs my support. I'm withholding it because forty years ago she sent me a card, money, celebrated with me later, but didn't physically attend my graduation." I would not expect nursing home visits from that person under any circumstances, graduation attended or not. The person using the thinking process described would probably be institutionalized anyway because they sound mentally unfit; in which case, the decent Aunt would support him, even if he didn't attend her graduation.

[quote]You sound like you do not have children[/quote]

You sound like someone with a family member who uses fear and loneliness to manipulate people.

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