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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The many threads here about how[b] people over 40 who divorce shouldn't want a life partner again are perplexing. [/b]For most UMC people in their 40s, they're only halfway through their life.

And I'm confused by the people who imagine that people in their 50s no longer have an interest in sex, as if they are old rickety people whose bones can't handle it or something. I understand that those who are very young, like under 25, see anyone over 50 as an ancient grandma. But anyone in their 30s or older who has a job and is in daily contact with "peers" who are over 50 has no excuse. This IG post features celebrities who look better at 50 than most of us looked at 25. But it still makes this point. https://www.instagram.com/reel/C6mfFgnyCuf/?igsh=MXRvd2ZneWRlOWo1eg%3D%3D&fbclid=IwZXh0bgNhZW0CMTAAAR31Ty3JF-tpzWN64lH0xcGxI3HrY9Pfyx9Ttxam-uh7duQBGPVoVqwiBiY_aem_AYHNq9AAyzOCxpCtWqPYY7ELdZw_rSov4ToJG91b0njRYAYXowqjjCEyqBxxJgBGYXA6qYUS1IRrwaRvYjGXnJK9[/quote]

It's not about sex, looks or rickety bones.  I would never want a life partner again because you (women in particular) have to give up so much of yourself to be in a healthy marriage. You have inlaws, kids, ex's, aging parents, careers, homes, assets, etc.  It's not just two people agreeing to stay together.  A second marriage at age 50 is just so different than a second marriage in your 20s-30s. I would NEVER give so much of myself away for a second marriage. [/quote]

Exactly. Not wanting to remarry has nothing to do with feeling old and everything to do with not wanting to add liabilities to my life. There is data showing women are betting off single, while men are better off married. Once a woman is financially secure and not looking to have more kids, there's not much to gain in a late-life marriage and a whole lot to risk. [/quote]

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