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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It’s later this month and final funds are due next week. (We will be out the initial deposit of $150.) They’re going to Toronto for three days. She was excited at the beginning of the year, but as it’s gotten closer, she is preemptively feeling homesick and begging not to go. She’s always been prone to homesickness and hasn’t spent the night with family in nearly a decade, and has never attended a sleepover. We were hoping the allure of a parentless trip with friends would entice her, but it seems it hasn’t. To her credit, she’s had a rough year with mean girl drama, and I wonder if that plays a role in her not feeling comfortable going.

I’m tempted to allow her to skip it. She has promised to do chores to make up the $150, and I believe her. I was never super comfortable with the idea of her going to begin with, although I can’t pinpoint the reason for my hesitation.

What do you all think? I told her I’d make up my mind this weekend. [/quote]

She needs to learn that when she makes a commitment, she keeps it.  [/quote]

Nonsense.

Parent and child aren’t feeling good about the trip. A deposit isn’t a “commitment,” especially when it involves spending more money.

Optional activities are just that. And if the kid has issues about being away from home the “row out on the lake and toss them in” approach isn’t the right one.

Some parents seem to resent their children. [/quote]

If the parent and child cannot articulate why they aren’t feeling good, it is good to interrogate whether this is anxiety taking control.

Some parents don’t seem to understand that’s it’s their job to make sure their kids can live and function independently.   Preemptive homesickness is not a reason to skip the trip. [/quote]

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