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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How old is this woman? [b]If she has a child she’s old enough to not need to be a birthday princess and have every single person present to watch her blow out candles. [/b]Not saying OP did things perfectly but SIL sounds exhausting.

Also, I’m not a germaphobe and would probably go anyway, but at probably at least one person from that family was contagious with the flu at the party. [/quote]

On the flip side, the event was a birthday party and OP "attended."  If someone came to my birthday party I would assume they wanted to be there for the singing/cake, even if they wanted to sit outside for most of it.  Otherwise, why did OP attend at all - she didn't interact with other attendees or even eat dinner with the rest of the family.  The only reason I would think she came was for that one face time/ family picture moment, so I don't think letting her know "it's cake o'clock" is necessarily attention seeking.[/quote]

She went because her DH guilted her into it and told her she could stay outside.[/quote]

Right, and I think 90% of us agree that she should have stayed home.  But since she did go, I think it's ridiculous for people to be calling SIL every name in the book for . . . telling a guest at her birthday party that the cake cutting time has arrived.  It's [i]significantly[/i] more ridiculous of OP to attend a birthday party but pout away from the group all night than for SIL to say "hey, the cake is coming, do you and nephew want to come in and sing?"[/quote]

I think the only thing OP did that was really wrong was say elderly FIL can come outside. That was beyond wrong. All the other stuff is a perfect storm of bad choices and stress. OP apologized, rightly, then SIL should let it go. There are times when I think people glom onto something just to be able justifying being angry and staying angry. I'm guessing SIL doesn't like OP, which is the heart of the real problem.[/quote]

Probably the last straw of dealing with her diva behavior. And miracle of all miracles, the child is already recovered from the "flu" and nobody else was sick. [/quote]

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